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Kassaremidylynn said:
I'm sorry to say that unless anda let him go, there is nothing we can do to help. My mom went through the same thing - my dad cheated constantly but she stuck around. She berkata she loved and him that he'd change. Guess what? He never did. She left him when I was almost five. Ten years later, and he still hasn't changed a bit. Can anda imagine how depressed my mother would have been, living in a horrible situation like that for ten lebih years? She was already having break downs every other night. I know, I witnessed them.
Even if anda Cinta him, anda have to think about any children anda may have. Do anda have any idea how traumatizing it is for a four tahun old girl to watch her parents scream, yell, push each other, and knock over furniture? atau to see your mother lying in her bed, alone, and crying, because your father is out and she knows he is with another woman? Those still stick with me. I still have nightmares and I still have violent reactions to argueing. Even if it is a small one, I have panic attacks. I hyperventilate, I cry, I get sweaty, and hot and then really cold...honestly, just thinking about them makes my hati, tengah-tengah beat speed up.
That's not something anda would want any future children living with. That will stick with me the rest of my life. Can anda imagine how embarrassing and horrifying it is to have a panic attack in public over a couple anda have never even talked to? That could happen to a child if anda stay with this man.
Don't worry about being lonely. anda will meet someone who is kind and treats anda right one day. anda don't need to stick with some bastard. anda ARE worth it, no matter what your fiance may say. The environment anda are in is poisonous. anda need to leave it.
I know it's harsh and I know anda won't want to at first. But remember something:
Cinta doesn't hurt you. Cinta accepts anda and wants anda and only you, not anda and some other person on the side for a bit, and then anda again. No matter what your fiance feels for you, Cinta is not it. Do not get locked up in a loveless marriage. It's not worth it. Not on you, not on your family, not on any kids that may be born.
Leave him. Leave him and never look back.
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