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Chibi-Baka3 said:
There's a difference between losing family and friends, and even those really close to you. It's all sejak how close anda are to the person; usually the most pain will be felt towards immediate family, spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends, children and/or siblings, etc. I'm finding some of this to be a bit confusing to me, so I'm going to hazard a guess here: did anda have an online relationship? anda speak of your boyfriend supposedly dying, but then anda say you're not even sure. I would guess most likely. As for this new guy that anda found, there are two possibilities: it could be him, atau it could be mere coincidence. But if anda talk to this new person a bit lebih and find that too many things are similar are between him and your boyfriend (and I mean anda can FEEL that it's him -- none of us can have the feeling to help anda out, because it depends on YOU), then ask him about it. Joking about death is not funny, it's a serious matter. anda should never, under any circumstances, joke about it. And on this website, it's quite common for someone to fake their death to get attention. If this person ends up to be him, then anda need to tell him these things and talk to him. Whether atau not he was trying to get attention -- atau just trying to start anew -- is no valuable reason to fake that. It's childish and, overall, arrogant. As for this pain of yours, I'll have to say that time heals all of your wounds. It's hard, but anda have to pull through it. Have some Friends and family help anda through it, and don't ever be afraid to tunjuk your true emotions. It doesn't mean you're weak; don't ever think that. What people would say is weak about someone is their own burdens -- they deal with it too, but place it on others to seem superior. If it's not about weakness and it's just about pride, menelan it down so anda can be helped. There's no shame in crying and feeling terrible about something, because it's part of life. Those who don't see it will have to see it sooner atau later, and their ignorance will only come back to bite. I hope that this helps anda out. Good luck to you, and I hope that anda get better.
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