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I'm really sorry about this...

I feel really bad that i keep coimg here and asking for friendship advice. i feel really bad to keep asking but sometimes i just dont know what to do.
But today at school me and my friend fell out over the most stupid thing. Lately weve been arguing alot and keep falling out then making up. ive had a friendship like this before and i really hated it.
me and my friend have nothing in common and she likes to think she knows EVERYTHING and corrects me even if im right. i really dont want another bad friendship where all we do is argue.
i hate feeling like this and im really upset over it. shes just sent me a message saying sorry but im scared to make up if shes just gonna do it again. what should i do?
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Chibi-Baka3 said:
anda don't need to feel bad about coming here and asking for advice; this is what this spot is for. If someone is sick of it, then they obviously don't belong in a place like this. People are going to ask questions, and they always have that right; ask away.

anda need to tell your friend not to correct anda all the time, first off. If anda get something wrong -- the name of a place, a grammatical error, whatever it is that people get wrong often -- then it's fine for someone to remind and correct. Then anda forget about it later, simple as that. But if she rubs it in all the time, such as like anda berkata even when you're right about something, just tell her that anda don't need any lebih input. anda obviously don't like it, but anda need to tell her without getting into a fight. It's all about word choice -- use I-statements, NEVER you-statements.

At least anda two are saying sorry, though. It's better off than to get into a fight and be mortal enemies for the rest of your lives, only to realize at the last moments that what you've both been doing was wrong. I really think that, after your discussion with her, anda both should keep a bit of distance for a hari atau two. Let the words from the discussion kick in; think about it for a while. It's better off to think of what anda two have fought about and realize that it's just not worth it.

If things keep going the same way, then anda either keep working at it atau just go off on your different ways. I'd rather anda not do the latter, but if anda can't seem to make things any different, then I don't know what else to say here. Not everyone is right, and both of anda have to keep that in mind. No one should be that conceited and full-headed to think that they know every single thing in the world; it's just not possible. It's not a very good thing for someone to have in a friendship; it's a barrier. That also goes for fighting over things that don't even matter. If it happens again, take some distance like before.
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