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Chibi-Baka3 said:
I'm pretty new to relationships and all, but I'll see what I can do here.
First thing to put into mind is that it's a good idea not to become too...needy, as my friend would say. Feeling as if anda need the person you're in a relationship with makes anda too dependent on them, and it's keseluruhan not very healthy. It's good to be able to manage on your own, but I can see why you're seeking some help on this. You're doing a good thing sejak trying to speak with him; I know that it didn't work out before, but anda should keep trying. Communication isn't all that easy, since one word atau some slip-up can change everything. Although they may say that actions speak louder than words, words have just as much power to damage something. Don't be passive, aggressive, atau passive-aggressive; be assertive. It's a bit hard to do, but once anda get the hang of it, it should become lebih natural. Talk to him about those "empty promises", if you're comfortable enough. Just remember not to menyeberang, cross over certain boundaries. It's usually good to start things off slow and let it gradually get better.
I'll level with you: my bf forgot about Valentine's hari too, but he made up for it later on. It may be passed, but maybe anda two can do something. Personally speaking, I think that he maybe should have kept the tarikh since anda planned it. For the dance, if he does something every Saturday, I wouldn't blame him much for it. Although I think that anda should tell him how much anda want to spend time with him; I mean, if he does it every Saturday, then it shouldn't hurt to just drop it once. It's a good thing to break out of routine sometimes.
Arguing really is a big mess, so if the two of anda start to get into something, stop and think about what's going on. Maybe step out of the room and breathe while thinking things over. It's much harder to think straight and make good judgment while someone is angry -- the way that I believe, anyway. Either way, try it out and see if it works. Some expectations are fine, sejak the way, but don't expect way too much. Like the Valentine's hari thing: I read online a few days before the holiday that anda shouldn't expect a whole lot from someone, but keep in mind that everyone is different.
I think it'd be better in your judgment to decide if anda should break up with him atau not. Other people who may reply will have their different thoughts as well, but it always leads up to the person asking the soalan to make the big decision. anda don't need to be too hasty; take your time. It's a lot to think of at once.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other questions.
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