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So basically I had a thing with a guy, he fucked me over twice and I went back, then he berkata he liked me but I couldnt get mad if he got a girlfriend so I ditched him. Now were back to being Friends but idk, something feels wierd, like it'll never be the same as before. Do anda think it's good that were friends? what should i do?
 franny_potter posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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dreamfields said:
It may be ok to be friends. I would not let him be a real close friend right away. You've been burned a couple of times sejak this guy. I think it would be wise for anda to wait untill he earns your trust. Otherwise, I'm afraid anda will just end up hurt again. Some people just use and hurt people over and over, anda need to let him know that saying he's sorry is not enough. Actions do speak louder than words.
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he never did apologize...
franny_potter posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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If he has not apologized, that's a big red flag. I think it shows that he does not care about your feelings. I think anda should stick with other Friends who care and respect you. It's hard to let go of a friendship, but anda deserve much better. Don't spend time on people who bring anda down.
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Chibi-Baka3 said:
I'd be careful around him...

I have a friend who has this sort of problem; she had a bad boyfriend years ago, and she wasn't the same after he dumped her. I mean, she's better now, but I still wish that I could have seen what was going on. Moving forward, she realized some time lalu that this ex of hers actually has problems, and he needs help. However, he's not getting anything. He just keeps following her around, saying that she makes him feel happy and that he NEEDS her, although he -- get this -- has a girlfriend, and even Lost his virginity with her. Doesn't that sound sick to you? Point is here, she's hurt right now because of his state, and it might turn out to be something like that. Just warning anda for the future; it's harder but better to admit that something is wrong and do something about it than to say to yourself that everything is fine.

I have to express a little confusion in your statement: anda berkata that anda "basically had a thing", had a fight, and then went back with him, right? If that's the case, he then told anda that anda couldn't get mad if he was then cheating on you? I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be around someone like that. anda know how anda feel around him now; strange. Foreign. "Nothing will be the same", as anda said, and that's true.

Personally, I wouldn't be Friends with someone like that, but if anda think that anda can be Friends with him, then I have no jurisdiction to stop you. Do what anda think is best for you, and for everyone else -- if there's anyone involved, that is. A suggestion, however: don't go any further with him (being boyfriend and girlfriend again, atau whatever the case was for you). I think that it would be better off if anda had some sort of distance between you. Not the cold kind, but...just a sort of barrier. It's hard to explain, but easier to see once anda gain the experience.

Hopefully anda find this helpful to you. Good luck to you, and if anda have any lebih questions, don't hesitate to ask.
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kamy89 said:
honestly no he fukked up and now its really no reason in u quys beinqq frends its akward and he fukked up and its really messed up how he thouqht he could just try qettinqq with u aqaain so fukk tht..hopefully this Nasihat helped youu(:
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