What do anda do if your parents are perpecahan, berpecah up, your 13 & mum still doesnt let anda alih to dads? - Dad wants me to run away to his house but i dont want to hurt mum like that. PLEASE HELP!

Hi! Sounds like a really difficult situation you're in! Fortunately I've been so lucky that I've never had to deal with divorcing parent myself, but a lot of my friend have.

First of all, running away to your dad is a really bad idea! Don't do that!
Your mother probably doesn't want to lose you, so talking to her leads to a fight. Your father also wants anda close, so anda are torn in the middle. What anda need to do is really think about what you want! Do anda mom and dad live far apart, atau not? Maybe anda could live with your mom every other week, and with your dad the other weeks? If that not possible, anda should really take the time to make this decision. What would the consequences of moving in with your dad be? Do anda need to change school? Will anda still be able to see your mom in the weekends? All that stuff is really important. When you've made up your mind, and anda can really explain well why anda want to alih in with your dad, talk to your mom. Tell her anda need to talk about something really important, and anda need her to listen to anda without starting a fight. I’m sure that if anda talk to her calmly and mature, she will treat anda calm and mature too. Make sure you’re not doing this because your dad told anda to, atau because anda want to hurt your mom. anda Cinta them both, and this was your decision!

I wish anda all the luck, and I hope this all works out well for both anda and your mom and dad! Let me know what happens!

Love, Eline

wow sweety this is a very tough situation the only thing i can suggest is recruit your dad to help talk to your mom she needs to understand that this affects anda alot and shes not being fair sejak not letting anda visit atau share custody with your dad explain that anda Cinta them both and want both of them to be part of your lives anda may also try to get other relatives atau good Friends involved srry i know this probably doesn't help much but i hope it does a little and i wish anda the best of luck

im in the same situation and im haveing trouble too, but the best thing i think anda should try is to talk to your mom and dad and see if anda can spend lebih time with your dad i spend every weekend with mine and sometimes lebih anda should see if anda could try that for a litle bit it really helped me.

hope this helps,
tiffany

Im in your exact position, I am 13 and dont wanna live with my mom try to talk to your Dad see what he can do, dont try talking to your mother let your Dad do it Adults listen to adults

Hope it helped!

What do anda want to do? If anda want to go to your dad anda have to tell your mom gently but strong.try telling your mom this "mom I know anda want me to stay with anda but I want to spend time with dad and anda have to respect my time with him as much as my time with you. I don't want to be separated from my dad because anda are.don't anda want me to be happy." anda have to make sure anda get it in. Most moms don't want to make anda unhappy but are scared that their losing anda atau won't see anda anymore so also tell her anda will not just stop talking to her and that anda still Cinta her. But if dad is pressuring anda to do this then tell him anda still Cinta him but are happy where anda are. If anda want to be with both but are not sure just have visits arranged when anda stay with him like a week at a time atau something.im not an expert but a lot of my Friends parents are divorced. Good luck!

Wow... this is a tough situation to be in. . I'm sorry anda have to go through this. Let me just s

OMG, ur in a really tough situation!! I feel so srry 4 u!! Just tell ur mom that u luv her, but u want 2 be able 2 spend time with ur dad as well, u don't want 2 loose both of them, so she needs 2 understand she can't keep u away from him. And DON'T run away, it'll only make things worse!! Just try 2 talk sense into ur mom & hope 4 the best. Just get God on ur side & 2 help u through this. Good luck & God bless!!