Dentist problems...

So I was totally fine with the dentist, I even liked my visits, until a tahun atau two lalu when I went and they berkata I had receding gums. They berkata I would have to have surgery where they removed tissue from the bahagian, atas of my mouth and stitched it over where my gums should be and it would be a bulan of liquid diet after the surgery. A MONTH. So I then became terrified of the dentist. I haven't gone since then (I'm pretty sure my mom just doesn't want to deal with it... and my problems have only gotten worse. I need braces, I have a chip on the back of one of my front teeth from where my lower teeth used to push against it, the gum receding has gotten worse, and now I just noticed that one of my teeth is a little loose... I have no lebih baby teeth. I'm TERRIFIED of the dentist... but I do need to go. Oh and as if that wasn't bad enough my dad is losing his job so now money is a factor too. I know I should talk to my mom about it but I just don't know how to even bring it up... should I even talk to her about it right now? Should I wait until my dad gets another job? I'm really scared of the dentist and I really don't want to go. Even talking about it freaks me out... I'm currently having a hard time breathing normally. What do I do? To be brutally honest I don't remotely take care of my teeth. My parents tend to be stressed and VERY grumpy and unpleasant sejak the time bedtime rolls around so I just want to run to my room ASAP and not come out... and I never do in the morning because after I do any Makanan I eat doesn't taste right for at least 2 hours and I hate that. I know I really should, but I have a hard time staying on bahagian, atas of it. I just don't even know what to do.