exclusive interview: selena gomez
Forget everything anda think anda know about Selena Gomez, Disney Princess. The Monte Carlo bintang opens up to Seventeen about growing up, moving on, and falling in love.

Selena Gomez might be dating Justin Bieber, the guy every girl obsesses over, but she still has other crushes too. That’s the great thing about her: she’s growing up and is getting to know herself, but she’s not totally abandoning the girl anda fell in Cinta with on Wizards either.

Today, the 18-year-old actress is finding a fierce independence that’s helping her trade the TV life for major movie bintang status, in July's Monte Carlo. But lebih importantly, she’s finding peace in her relationships—including her friendship with Demi—and is opening herself up to the possibility of real love. Seventeen sat down with Selena to talk love, life, and of course, Justin.

17: Your movie, Monte Carlo, is all about growing up and moving on—graduating and taking this first major trip alone. Do anda feel as free as Grace is?

SG: Yeah, I’ve definitely gained a lot of that recently. I went on vacation over New Year’s with a bunch of my friends, for the first time, without my parents. That was so much fun. I feel like I’m in a place where I’m on my own a little bit. It’s nice.

17: Traveling with Friends is definitely a major milestone. Who would anda want to take with anda on a trip to Paris (or Monte Carlo)?

SG: I’d Cinta to go on vacation with Taylor [Swift]. I’ve been able to fly to Nashville to see her, and she’ll come to LA a lot, but it’d be nice to get away. It would be really fun. I’ve known Taylor for over three years now, so we’re at the point where we just get each other.

17: Is she your best friend?

SG: I’ve gotten to the point where the label of “best friend” is so ridiculous. If anda have three people in your life that anda can trust, anda can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world. I have a lot of wonderful people in my life—probably five, collectively—who I can tell everything to. There’s Jennifer [Stone], my friend Ashley, and Taylor, and my two cousins.

17: Has it always been easy for anda with friends? atau have anda ever had a friendship fall apart?

SG: Yes. anda reflect on the people who used to be in your life, and it’s like, ‘Wow, I can’t believe that person was ever really in my life.’ But people are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach anda lessons. You’re growing and changing, and eventually, anda can go from having all these Friends to feeling like anda have no one, because you’ve been betrayed, atau you’ve gone through things. But in this moment, I’m in such a good place with my friends. I feel confident and I’m happy there are people who I can truly trust in my life.

17: And if a person does betray you, do anda ever give saat chances?

SG: I believe in saat chances, but I don’t believe in third atau fourth chances. I Cinta talking through things, and I always want to make things work, if I really Cinta someone, but eventually, if they can’t fix whatever is wrong, atau if they’ve done something and then they continue to do it, they’re probably not going to change for anybody. anda can’t change a person. Jennifer Stone has told me a thousand times: “You want to be Friends with people who double you, not cut anda in half.”

17: As far as Friends who change, atau go through something, anda obviously went through that with Demi. Are anda two still close?

SG: Yes, of course. There’s an amount of Cinta that can never—no matter what—be taken away atau torn apart, no matter the situation. There are certain people who anda will always, always love, so if anything, this just reminded me of how much I truly Cinta her.

17: It’s so nice to be able to open yourself up to Cinta that way. Do anda feel like you’ve ever been in Cinta before?

SG: I don’t know. I maybe had a first Cinta and had my hati, tengah-tengah broken, but reflecting on it, I don’t think that was love. I think that was just me being fifteen and going, "Oh my gosh! I know I’m in love. I’m going to marry him." So I don’t think that was love. I think as I’m getting older and having lebih in-depth relationships, maybe I’ll experience it. At the moment, I don’t know, exactly, if I’ve been in love.

17: But when anda did feel like anda were in love, how did anda deal when it ended?

SG: I’ve very emotional. When I went through my first breakup, I thought it was the end of the world, and I thought I was going to die if I didn’t have him in my life. It was good to cry it out, and just scream, atau call my Friends in the middle of the night crying. anda can’t shut down, anda can’t say, ‘What can I do to make this go away?’. anda have to let it be painful and get through it. Every hari gets better. Because when you’re in love, anda kind of give everything and make that person your life. So every hari anda get lebih and lebih of yourself back, and it feels better.

17: You’ve been very private with your relationships in the past, but with Justin, you’ve been lebih open—you even coordinated Oscars outfits.

SG: I know. That was our prom.

17: Was there a corsage involved?

SG: No, but there should have been!

17: Is there a reason you’ve decided to be lebih open this time around, with Justin?

SG: I don’t like hiding. I do like to keep certain things to myself, but at the end of the day, I’m eighteen, and I’m going to fall in love. I’m going to hang out with people, and I’m going to explore myself, and I’m okay with that.

17: Since anda are lebih open, you’ve obviously been through a tough time with Justin’s fans. Do anda remember being younger, and being a peminat with a crush?

SG: Are anda kidding me? I’m still thinking Zac Efron’s my husband.

17: Well we hear he’s on the market…

SG: No. I wouldn’t touch that. I Cinta Vanessa [Hudgens] way too much.

17: Do anda have anything anda wish anda could say to Justin’s peminat-peminat now?

SG: I do see the passion that a lot of these girls have, and it’s beautiful. I Cinta it. I really do. It’s special.