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My husband and I only have sex once every four to six weeks. the last time we had sex, he lasted longer than ever and still did not cum... is he having sex else where?

I have been married before, he has not.
his sex life before me consisted of one night stands in the parking lot of bars.
I have been very sexual and open and exploratory.
I want him to make Cinta rather than just screw and he takes that as a put down. Its like all he wants is something cheap and easy and that aint me.
I have done everything to spice up our "sex life" from trying to talk to him (pointless) to planning sexy outtings, having sex in public places, making sexy pics for him, and introducing him to toys... nothing has worked. He is a creature of habit and does everything the same way every time.
He says he is tired. He has been diagnosed with a thyroid problem which is now under control. He also has low T but wont do anything about it. He says sex isnt everything yet I have caught him hitting on other women and lying to me about looking at porn on his office computer. Divorce is not an option--- I cant have an affair, I just dont have it in me. I almost wish I did. Im so lonely and frustrated. Masterbation isnt enough for me!! The best sex Ive had in years was the masterbation I did when making the sexy pics for him and still all that does is wet my appetite for real sex!!!

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dreamfields said:

I am sorry for your situation. I have an idea of what may be going on, but it's only a guess. Your husband has low T, but won't do anything about it? He could suffer from ED. He may have a good enough erection for penetration, but not be able to maintain it. At that point, he may not get enough friction to allow him to ejaculate. He might try a while to find a right angle to get friction. If this is the case he is probably frustrated. The logical thing to do would be to talk to a doctor. However, as anda know, some of guys aren't good at sharing feelings, and something like this can hurt a guys pride. Sometimes when a guy does not feel in control he'll flirt with women to make himself feel good atau get into porn. ED does not allow ejactulation from making love, but a guy can still get off sejak masturbation. Porn can be a problem. Some guys and look at it and it's no big deal. Others, become addicted. Generally the type of porn a guy gets into is not the same as a woman would. Denying that he looks at porn comes from shame. It can warp a man's perception of what is acceptable in bed, (or where ever)
Your husband needs to see a doctor. Also, I think it would be good for anda both to see a counselor.
My Nasihat for anda is one, remember that this is a problem your husband is having. anda are not at fault. Do not allow yourself to accept any guilt.
Secondly, when possible, treat your husband with respect and gently encourage him to persue help. anda do not have to give approval to his porn atau anything else anda feel violates your bond.
Your marriage can be saved and become better than anda dreamed. It may take alot of work.
I don't know if he's cheating, I would guess no. Still keep your eyes open for signs. What ever happens, I wish anda peace, happiness and love. God bless.