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I don't know a good soalan to ask so lemme say this: Me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex.

I read Cinder's artikel (How Maturity Leads To Good Sex, atau something similar) and I considered all these questions.
1) Are anda having sex just for the sake of having sex?
2) Are anda having sex because anda were pressured into having sex?
3) Does the idea of buying condoms make anda uncomfortable?
4) Do anda think that anda can't get pregnant on your period?
5) Can anda talk to your partner-- without laughing-- about sex? This includes what anda like about sex, and the things your partner does well, and the things s/he could improve on.
6) Have anda thought about ways to make the experience memorable?
7) Have anda gotten tested for STDs, atau gone to a doctor for a physical lately?
8) Do anda want your partner to have just as good an experience as anda do, atau do anda not care?

If anda answered "Yes" on any of the 1-4 questions, atau if anda answered "No" on any of the 5-8 questions, then anda are not mature enough to have great sex. If anda chose "No" on all of 1-4, and if anda chose "Yes" on all of 5-8, then congratulations! You're a mature adult who can make his/her own decisions. Hooray!
I agree with all these so I asked my boyfriend them as well. The only soalan we got "wrong" (we got all the same answers) was soalan 7. I ASSURE anda all we are both virgins and I am on the pill and we have condoms. I care about him and believe I do in fact Cinta him. The only thing is that I'm 14 and he's 16. He berkata he wanted to wait a while but then changed his mind and I don't want either of us to have sex til we're both ready. I think that he'd take care of me and I wouldn't have the emotional baggage associated with sex. But I'd like the opinion of older, lebih experienced people. Minus the age, I think I'm ready. Just give me your opinion please. Thankies :)
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And he and I have discused this. He says "If anda are ready then we will." Hes not pushing me, I want ya'll to know that.
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SouthParkSmart said:
I think anda are being very mature about this in considering Cinders' soalan and using birth control. I know anda want a non-virgin perspective, and I apologize, and anda may think I'm just pahit because I "can't get laid". But I would strongly advise against it. I just cannot morally tell anda that it would be okay for anda to have sex.

Please don't take offense to this, but you're fourteen, and anda may not be able to see the consequenses clearly at this point. Psychology has shown us that the human mind is not fully developed until we are in our mid-twenties, and that's why teenagers do things that seem okay at the time, but don't consider the consequenses.

Think about this: would anda be ready to deal with an unexpected pregnancy? I know anda berkata anda are both virgins, but from my understanding, there are other ways of aquiring STD's not necessarily from sex. These are realities anda may have to face. I would not want this to happen to a sweet, careful person like you, but it is possible.
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Thanks for your Nasihat :)
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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You're welcome!
SouthParkSmart posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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And hey, if I end up regreting it, I know I can talk to him and he'll make me feel better and we won't do it again :)
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
bri-marie said:
If anda feel anda and your boyfriend are ready, and you're sure are ready to deal with the consequences, if any come up, then I don't see why not. anda seem to have a pretty good idea of how anda feel and what a sexual relationship entails.

The only problem I can see is that, depending on where anda live, anda could be under the age of consent and he's over the age (or at the age - generally the age of consent is between fifteen and sixteen). It could cause problems if either of your parents aren't okay with it.
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Thanks :)
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Haha, I'm not very good at calculating things like that. From what I've heard, the chances are fairly low. But things do happen and there is a chance.
bri-marie posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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I understand that. But I think chances are low, and just this once we'll be fine.
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
kittencutie119 said:
Honestly hon i would wait. anda are just 14. and yea anda are on the pill and anda have condoms but neither are 100%. The condom could breack and the pill takes a while to settle in. considering waiting.
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I've been on for four months.
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fine get pregnant i just didnt want anda to be in the hospita;l at 14 and being the most sick youve ever been.
kittencutie119 posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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i agree. wait at least until marriage.
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lilith84 said:
If anda feel you're ready, but only if anda really want it then your age shouldn't matter. But I can't stess enough only if anda really feel anda are ready. Be sure, be prepered (condoms are always a nessesity, virgin atau not, pill atau not - better selamat, peti deposit keselamatan than sorry). And anda both have to make sure the other has a memorable experince, meaning, lots and lots of foreplay, no rush and comunnication! If anda don't like something, something makes anda feel pain etc. anda cannot be affaid of saying it. Otherwise have fun :D
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Oh believe me, we talk about it. We've done everything but sex and we both Cinta to talk about it. He is over sensitive about hurting me though... Like, if his finger goes in at a kinda pinching angle, you'd think he was the one who got hurt! Haha :) We do have condoms and I was put on the pill 4 months lalu for PMS. And believe me, we are beasts at foreplay. And I do think we're ready, if it ends up we're not, then we're there for eachother. We've talked about that too :)
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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it looks like anda guys are ready then :)
lilith84 posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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Thankies:) I Cinta him... I really do. And I can say that because I told him I don't wanna say it til i'm absolutely sure
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
jbforme said:
WAIT, YOUR BOYFRIEND? NO, NO, NO! WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE BECAUSE LOSING YOUR VIRGINTY BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A AWFUL! P.S DON'T GET MARRIED EARLY JUST SO anda CAN SLEEP WITH EACH OTHER. THATS MY OPINION.
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I don't agree with marriage. I don't wanna ever get married.
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
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marriage is overrated, besides, anda need to test the potential candidates before anda decide to spent the rest of your life with one of them.
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not everyone has to get married. I'm in a relationship for 7 years now and we have decided not to get married. I am not in the least interested in wedding bands and crap like that.
lilith84 posted hampir setahun yang lalu
germany123 said:
you're being responsible, anda guys seem to be in a stable relationship, anda have thought aboot the pros and cons- normally i would say go for it. yeah i am european so i dont get the whole OMG WAIT TILL anda ARE MARRIED thing.
the only thing i would argue is that youre obviously not sure. if anda were anda wouldnt have to ask peoples advice. and thats my only argument really...you're not sure so wait.
i wouldnt wait until anda get married atau have reached a certain age thats deemed "acceptable" i would till anda -withoot a doubt- say "yes" rather than "uh maybe not sure"

(and yes i am a non-virgin...and i am not married :P *GASP*)



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Haha, well I think I'm totally ready but people keep telling me about emotional consequences and so I just really was curious if I'd get that. Btw Ich leibe Deutschland!
LoveforSeverus posted hampir setahun yang lalu
LadyLilith said:
Grrr, I sent it to you. =_=;; Fanpop was being a douche and cutting my stuff off because it was too long. Ask me about it if anyone else is interested~
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And again, I apologize if it does not help at all. ;;; Just if anda have questions, please ask and I will answer and help out the best I can~
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