Anyway, first how did I know I was Aro/Ace? Well, I didn't. How could I? That word(s) never existed back in the day. anda were either gay, bi atau straight. I identified as straight atau screwed if anda want to look at it like that. But I knew something was different. I was the only girl in my school that knew the lyrics to Backstreet Boys songs. Everyone else concentrated on their looks! I cringed at Cinta scenes and pretended to like certain guys so no one would suspect anything. I lied to everyone, my parents, Friends and deep down I was not interested. I didn't know what to do, I knew I wasn't gay so I was straight? Just a weird straight, I guess? The last straw was when I found myself letting others find boyfriends for me (that was a nightmare!)
Anyway, I figured it out years lalu when I read a DW fanfiction. That was my hallelujah moment. And later I discovered I was also Aromantic (yay!) Now coming out was kind of scary. I mean how do anda explain this? But my dad (who was the first person I told) basically understood. In fact, he knew before I did! *lol* Yeah, he knew grandkids weren't happening but he's cool with that.
But for a while I didn't want to tell anybody. I was too nervous and worried what others would think. Then there was forum soalan about crushes on Fanpop (oh no!) and so I told Berni and Sunny and they were absolutely wonderful and supportive! And it made me realize it was okay to come out. But I wasn't ready to start putting up a banner atau doing a huge announcement. So, I took baby steps sejak posting in the asexual club, wearing an ace ring and then I just came out when I was comfortable and ready. But I've been lucky to have a wonderful support system. My biggest regret is never being able to tell my mom but she's knows and she's proud! And tbh, going thru what I did might have been hard but it helped figure out my aro/ace. And at least I'm happy.
