Communication:
-Communication communication communication. anda need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, anda cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So anda need to be able to talk to them. Tell them anda are upset. With the distance, anda cannot behave like anda would in a local relationship, anda cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what anda are doing every minit of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when anda do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so anda know when (about when) the seterusnya visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. anda both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW anda will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if anda aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If anda are feeling doubt. Remember that anda Cinta them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the Cinta of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but anda need to.
Set tarikh Nights
-Talk about when anda will have dates. Even with the distance anda can have dates!
-Pick ONE hari a week that no matter what, the two of anda can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, anda will know that anda will talk at least that one day. If for some reason anda cannot talk on tarikh day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, atau texts, atau emails, however works best for anda guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If anda Cinta them, why hide them?
-If anda keep your relationship secret, are anda ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless anda don’t Cinta them.
-If anda keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if anda are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to alih where? How will anda end the distance? anda don’t need to end the distance right away, but If anda plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of anda plan on moving away, and anda never talked about it, anda both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. atau anda will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they Cinta you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, anda know anda will be upset with not doing what anda wanted. If anda end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If anda don’t think anda could ever leave your family, tell them that. If anda don’t want to travel, tell them, if anda want to wait longer before anda alih tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the seterusnya visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how anda feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your Friends don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not utama all the time, anda will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If anda have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair atau iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 atau higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, anda can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If anda don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype atau FaceTime, oovoo, Facebook has webcaming now, Google + has hangouts, etc.
-Communication communication communication. anda need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, anda cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So anda need to be able to talk to them. Tell them anda are upset. With the distance, anda cannot behave like anda would in a local relationship, anda cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what anda are doing every minit of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when anda do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so anda know when (about when) the seterusnya visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. anda both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW anda will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if anda aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If anda are feeling doubt. Remember that anda Cinta them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the Cinta of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but anda need to.
Set tarikh Nights
-Talk about when anda will have dates. Even with the distance anda can have dates!
-Pick ONE hari a week that no matter what, the two of anda can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, anda will know that anda will talk at least that one day. If for some reason anda cannot talk on tarikh day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, atau texts, atau emails, however works best for anda guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If anda Cinta them, why hide them?
-If anda keep your relationship secret, are anda ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless anda don’t Cinta them.
-If anda keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if anda are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to alih where? How will anda end the distance? anda don’t need to end the distance right away, but If anda plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of anda plan on moving away, and anda never talked about it, anda both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. atau anda will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they Cinta you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, anda know anda will be upset with not doing what anda wanted. If anda end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If anda don’t think anda could ever leave your family, tell them that. If anda don’t want to travel, tell them, if anda want to wait longer before anda alih tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the seterusnya visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how anda feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your Friends don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not utama all the time, anda will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If anda have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair atau iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 atau higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, anda can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If anda don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype atau FaceTime, oovoo, Facebook has webcaming now, Google + has hangouts, etc.
