Lol, adore the other icon. :D

I want to answer cheating because you love the person is worse because that's 2x cheating. Physically and emotionally. Then again, when you cheat just for the sex, then you throw your relationship away for nothing. I guess, at the end of the day, cheating is cheating. So I can't choose. LOL. Thoughts?

Sorry, I didn't put a particular icon this time. :D

^^ Nem at first i chose, cheating cause you love eachother, but than i re-thought about it, after you're answer and realized both.


IMO cheating because you love eachother is no excuse to cheat?
If you're in a relationship with another person, how about break up with them, if you dont love them?
When people cheat, IMO its lust, ALWAYS lust, at first anyways, because too people who are cheating, clearly love the thrill, of being together, but in true fact they can't be, which gets them off.

With drunk sex, i say, dont get fucking drunk if you're a horny person LMAO.
But its a one night stand... example Serenate, that was cheating and it was one night, but IMO its not AS BAD as someone having an on-going affair, and why? Because drunk sex, was a mistake a really bad one, and you had no control over your actions, and im not saying its good, im just saying, drunken sex >> aware sex is better.

I think i wanna change mine back to couples who cheated because they love eachother. ;/

LMAO that's what I thought. Love couldn't be an excuse for cheating. Love shouldn't be used to cheat. It's just so wrong on so many levels. I mean, if you really love a person, then why are you with somebody else? That's just dumb, if you ask me.

If your in love with someone else you shouldn't be with the person your with, true. And obviously an ongoing affair is worse than one night.

So say it just a one time thing and hypothetically if say I had a boyfried who cheated on me with my best friend if that friend/boyfriend said "i'm so sorry but I'm in love with him/her etc...." I would be more inclined to forgive them both because at least I know they didn't hurt me this way just because they were drunk and forgot to remember me. Also if they're in love it suggests that at least they tried to stay away from each other out of regard for my feelings - to get to the point where they are in love but for some reason this boyfriend is still with me. Does that make sense lol?

To me, if you can look at your bf/gf and say that you love this other person & that's why you cheated... it's worse than some lapse in judgment or a drunken mistake. If you honestly know that you're in love with someone else, you break up with your bf/gf and be honest.

Basically, this is how I see it:
Drunken mistake/lapse in judgment = Sure, a big no-no, but sometimes things happen & you would take it back in a heartbeat. Despite what some people think, a partner CAN cheat and still be madly in love with their significant other.
Cheating because you love the person you cheat with = You've clearly already, at the very least, been emotionally cheating if you can honestly say that you are in love with someone else. And to me, this is worse. It means you have been lying/keeping things from your partner for some significant amount of time and that is definitely worse than a spontaneous mistake.

cheating with feelings would hurt a lot more then if i found out it was just meaningless. to know that the person you love loves someone else is just awful. id take drunken meaningless sex which most often is a mistake, over something intentional. and i completley agree with xheartinohioxo.

Both are bad. I agree with SG1-090 If you are in a relationship with someone and in love with someone else, you should break up, period. To me if someone just cheated on me with someone random, it would feel worse, just because it would have been so meaningless. I would feel that I didnt matter much either. I don´t think being in love is an excuse to cheat, there´s no excuse, ever.

If my boyfriend chose to risk my feelings and our relationship for the sake of JUST sex... That would basically tell me that our relationship isn't worth anything to him. it would show that the temporary joy of sex itself is more important to him, than my feelings are. I'm sorry, but I think to risk throwing your relationship away, just for the sake of meaningless sex with someone else is the ultimate slap in the face.

But if he cheated on me because he loved another person, yes it would obviously still hurt... But atleast then I would know that it would take those EXTREME circumstances, and extreme feelings between him and someone else, for him to consider hurting my feelings. It would show that it takes something as strong as LOVE, for him to consider risking our relationship. It would show that the only thing that comes before his love for me, is his STRONGER love for someone else. It wouldn't be about the shallow act of putting mere sex before me, it would be about putting his love for someone else, before his love for me. And as much as it would hurt, it would actually make me feel better to know that he wouldn't just cheat on me at the drop of a dime... but only under extreme, (uncontrolable even) circumstances such as love.

I hope that makes sense. This is a tough subject to put into words lol

Agree 100% with xoheartinohioxo!

this seems like a no-brainer to me. the pick doesn't ask which act of cheating would hurt the worst. It asks which act of cheating is worse. Obviously finding out through cheating, that your partner loves someone else would hurt a lot. But as far as the actual act... I hands down think that cheating on you partner just for sex is way worse

lol I'm sorry but I do find it hilarious [yet not surprising] that LP fans think drunken sex/a one time mistake is worse...

lmao, but like I said, not surprised at all. It always comes back to LP cheating because "they were in love" /eyeroll vs the brathan sex-tape being a drunken fuck up.

^ ok... and I find it hilarious how BL fans think cheating when in love is worse. What's your point?

The biasness clearly works both ways... lmao

I think both are awful, but i find that cheating because
you love eachother hurts the other people WAY worse.
I've been in both those situations.
And to tell you the truth, having my FIANCE
of three years cheat on me with my best friend
because he "loved" her was one of THE worst moments of
my life, it means he didn't love me from the begining i was
just his toy to play around with.

The drunk sex i feel is more of a DUMBASS mistake, yes a stupid
mistake and awful but it was because of booze.
And a relationship COULD be repaired after A LOTTTT of work
and trust.

Cheated because your supposedly love one another it's worse than just one stand drunk sex night. It's not even an excuse. If you loved a guy/girl but they cheated on you because they were "in love", it hurts way worse than just one night sex.
One night stand can be repaired. Can be a little more forgiven. But having the person that you loved for so long cheat on you with the person they are supposedly in love, really must hurt. Both are really awful but cheating with love it's worse for me. They could have just tell you that that they were in love with somebody else. Being honest with you & everything wouldn't have to end in chaos.

BAH.

I didn't even think of LP when writing this... YOU KNOW THERE NOT ON MY MIND 24/7, BLOODY HELL.

I agree with xoheartinohioxo 100%!

Also just for the record not everything in the world revolves around fucking LP. I chose my answer because it's how I feel. Not because of One Tree Hill or the couple(s) that I do or do not ship.

Hmmn... I really don't know. But I guess it depends on what the question is asking... if it's asking which is the worse scenario that's a little different than what is the worse reasoning for cheating. Because I think that to me CLEARLY cheating on your spouse or significant other because you love someone else is a worse scenario--- because three people are getting hurt. When someone cheats and it's just for sex... I would assume the person who is not in the relationship is not really getting hurt since it's all about sex (therefore it's only two people getting hurt). If a woman has a boyfriend, but then cheats on her boyfriend with another man because she says she loves him also, then it is a slap in the face to the boyfriend that she cheated on since she clearly doesn't love him enough to stay faithful, it's a slap in the face to the man she cheated with because she claims to love him but she chooses to be with her boyfriend instead of him therefore showing she is actually ashamed of this man or prefers sneaking around with him rather than ending her relationship and being with this man she loves, and she is hurting herself because she loves two people and when you love someone- watching them hurting is even worse than experiencing the pain yourself.
Someone who cheats simply for sex... shows complete disrespect and lack of regard for the person he or she is in a relationship with.
Someone who cheats when feelings are involved with someone else... shows complete disrespect and lack of regard for both their significant other and the person they are cheating with.

The only time I would say this doesn't really apply is if the couple is married for many years and then one of them falls in love with someone else.... because divorce is not as simple as just saying I want to be with someone else-- it involves a complete change of lifestyle and possibly starting everything in your life all over again.

But both scenarios suck big time!

"lol I'm sorry but I do find it hilarious [yet not surprising] that LP fans think drunken sex/a one time mistake is worse..."

LOL oh dear, someone is living in the OTH world 24/7.

I´m sure people are not answering based on one tv show, but on their beliefs and on the experiences they´ve had so far.


Anyway, not too long ago I told my boyfriend that if he ever cheated on me that it had better cheated with someone he loves/he´s in love with. You can love many people, but only be in love with one. When you´re in a long term relationship sometimes it is hard to distinguish both. Sometimes feelings get really confusing and it takes time to figure them out. In that period mistakes happen (like cheating), but you better have a good excuse for them. Having sex with your partner is easy, but seeking for specific feelings is much harder. FOR ME, it would be much more disrespectful if my bf cheated on me for sex, for something really easy and less meaningful to get.

Yeh I'm suprised LP managed to even be mentioned in this pick! Like WTH???

Anyway I agree with what kellyerin87, TheBoySawAComet & rosangie have said I think you guys explained what I was trying to say only didn't manage to :)

Atleast you have 'some sort of reason' to cheat when you LOVE someone else

lol I'm sorry but you guys are only further proving what a lot of us are saying.

It's bullshit excuses that you guys have been using to excuse what LP did for years.

none of us are "living in the OTH world 24/7" we're just pointing out how ridiculously far some of you will go to keep up the "LP was in love so it's okay" bullshit.

I'm deleting this as well because it's not true!

*Deleted because it was the most fucked up thing I've ever said.

hahaha i knew this would be about LP vs BL.
GOD!

How did this question turn into an LP vs BL argument seriously I'm a BL fan but this is ridiculous I am fed up of seeing this argument on every pick I go on and for the record it is not just BL fans or just LP fans who start it its both! and its getting on quite a lot of peoples nerves including mine! sorry just had to let that out

^^FOR REAL!!!

Omg this mine as well be the NEW LP vs. BL spot! This is getting VERY tiring! It's like once the letters "LP" or "BL" pop up, suddenly the WHOLE pick becomes a LP vs. BL war!

If a guy cheats on me for JUST SEX, then F-HIM!

Just sex!

Tacky Tacky Tacky.

To me, that person is risking what they have with the person they love for something totally meaningless and if that person were to forgive, it would be hard to be able to trust that person.

Cheating is cheating and it's wrong. But if one really have to cheat on someone it's better if it's for love than just a one night stand with meaningless sex.

^ I agree